Are you a wife in charge of her husband?

How many of you wives out there are trying to control your husbands? Do you think it will make them love you more? It will not. Could you open your mind to what may be a new idea?

Do you know how to make your husbands love you as the best wife he could ever imagine? Respect the fact that he is an adult and can make good decisions. The decisions he makes may not be the same as you would make; can you handle that? Is it your way or the highway? Is that what you really want? Do you really want him to think of you as his mother: coming to you for permission to do things, saying no to his choices because you have other plans for him, staying away from home because as soon as he gets there you demand (though you think you are asking) that he clean the garage (or some such work)? How about you try treating your husband as if he were a grown man?

Listen, he may make wrong choices. Have you ever made a wrong choice? Do you like it when people rub it in your face? When he makes a wrong choice do not feel the need to tell him; he will know. With his new freedom he may be gone from home more, unsure of how long it will last. Don't worry, do the things that are your job to do, do more than your share. When he comes home and you are happy and don't make a bunch of demands on him... surely you can imagine how he will feel. Serve him, love him, sacrifice for him.  It may be difficult (that's why it is called 'sacrifice'), but you will receive an inner joy that only God can give. Soon, he will want to be home. He will want to take you with him. He will love you as the best wife in the world.

This is an extremely abbreviated version of my thoughts on this matter, but it gives you the idea. It is painful to me, sad to see women in charge of their husbands. I always think: those poor men; and I feel angry at their wives for making both their lives so miserable.